"But what is grief, if not love persevering?"-WandaVision|
Hobbes, the handsome prince of the feline world, came to our family in 2004. He was only three months old and needed to grow into his ears. They were so big compared to his head. But grow into those ears he did, and into a beautiful ginger boy that loved to chase chipmunks and critters and bring them, alive, to me as a gift. I had to make him drop his gifts before coming into the house. He never roamed free, but was out on a leash like a dog. Honestly, he was more dog than cat! He loved being outside no matter the season. He'd come out while we shoveled snow or mowed the lawn and just watch over us. He had the best markings, called a Ring of Fire on both sides of his body. He was beautiful. And his face was round and full. Such a loyal and loving boy, always ready to corral me into the living room to snuggle until bedtime every night. Then, he'd curl up next to me in bed. I wouldn't move all night so he could sleep. He was our boy for 16 1/2 years before he left us for his next journey. Until I see him again, I hope he is with his buddies, pals and family members, chasing chipmunks and critters, or just soaking up the sun's razes and cooling breezes, rolling in catnip under bushes or trees. Love you forever, buddy! xoxo
March 1, 2021: Missing you a whole bunch these past few days, buddy. I continue to "see" you cruising through the house, or sitting in your windows or your many cozy places to snooze. I realized today that I was no longer the mom of a kitty, but I will be forever your mom. Hobbes's mom...that is how I've been known for 16 1/2 years. Even your human siblings and dad knew who was first in the pecking order in our family! You will forever be in my heart, buddy. Miss you to pieces. xoxo
March 6, 2021: Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking about you, buddy. Every. Day. Eliza continues to make you "food" in her kitchen. She looks around for her "kitty" daily. She started to say your name the day after you left us.❤️ She carries around and "feeds" the stuffed Siamese cat that was mine when I was young. So sweet! Love you, buddy. xoxo
March 11, 2021: Hey buddy! I got my keepsake bracelet today with your paw print on it and it is beautiful. Even the people at Geib thought the same thing. They had never seen this bracelet before and now they know they can recommend it to other people. It is the perfect keepsake. It has your paw print on it and it has your name engraved on it too. Now I will carry your paw print with me 24 hours a day seven days a week. The little plate for your urn that Kait got also from the funeral home has your paw print on it and it is terrific. Plus, I ordered one from rainbow Bridge and the people were wonderful. I will be putting that one on the shadowbox with all your little remembrances. And I also was notified that my little cuddle clone of you is in production. I think Bean will be so excited when it arrives. Remember how much she enjoyed pretending to make you food and feeding you. And even though you were very sick, you patiently let her "feed" you, squeeze you, and play house. In return, she learned how to be gentle and quiet when you were resting. You two were great buddies! Keep an eye on her from above...her own furangel. I won't always get a chance to write, and there may be weeks or months before I do, but you know even if I'm not writing, I'm talking to you daily and carry you in my heart always. Love, Mom xoxo
March 15, 2021: Good morning, buddy! Daylight saving time was this past weekend. We always looked forward to it because your breakfast clock was back to normal.😊 I came downstairs and found a "paw impression" on the couch near the blankets. Thanks for the visit! Sunday night, the 8th, I woke up with a start. I felt your presence near my face, saw your beautiful face, and swear that my face was buried in your fur as I always did! It literally took my breath away...it felt oh so real! I believe you stopped by for a visit and a snuggle just like always before sleep. I will hold on to that feeling and visit forever! Thank you!! See you soon! xoxo Mom
March 20, 2021: Hi, buddy! Today is the first official day of spring! I went on a long hike and chatted with you the entire time. I stopped at one point, and just took in the surroundings. The trees, the water, the sky, the birds...and right on time, two cardinals flew by. They say when we see cardinals, our deceased loved ones are thinking about us. It's happened to me a couple of times. I'd sure like to think that you're with me at those exact times. I may not always write to you, there may be days, weeks, months that go by without an entry. But you know that I wear your paw print on my wrist every day. And I say good morning and good night. I talk to you just like before, and dad still asks if I'm talking to you or him. lol Nothing changed, he still doesn't hear me. Do me a favor and find Garfield, Ashley's buddy. He passed away today. Tell your sister Hopper, and Snoopy, Tiger, Nemo, Diesel ((Bob and Kayla's dog), Madison, Ruby, Rini that I said hi. I'll see you all in Paradise Meadow by Rainbow Bridge someday in the future. Love, Mom xoxo
March 21. 2021: Thanks for joining me on my hike today! Two beautiful cardinals on the Towpath. xoxo
March 28, 2021: Hi Hobbesy-boy! Keep sending me those cardinals, buddy. And I look forward to seeing the hummers soon, too! All remind me of you, that you're with me.❤️ I want you to know that no other kitty or animal will ever take your place. Ever. My heart is yours forever. Until I see you in Paradise Meadow near Rainbow Bridge, visit me often and know that I love you forever. Love, Mom xoxo
"When tomorrow starts without me and I'm not there to see, the sun will rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me. I know how much you love me, as much as I love you, And each time that you think of me, I know you'll miss me too. But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand that an angel came, called my name and petted me with her hand. I thought about our lives together, I know you must be sad, I thought of all the love we shared and all the fun we had. So when tomorrow starts without me don't think we're far apart. For every time you think of me, I'm right there in your heart." Love you forever. 🐾❤️
March 31, 2021: Hi Bubs! I love and miss you! Here's a poem written by Dad of a furbaby.
The Seasons of Our Pets
There are times throughout the year
And lives conform to nature's sway
And so our pets reflect the seasons
At winter's end spring has begun.
With it come life rays from the sun.
It is the time of new born joy
And mothers give so willingly
They protect and feed each babe in need
Eventually summer comes around.
Young adulthood can be found,
Life is lived in full each day:
Have a treat...so tasty to eat,
Laze in warm rays of the sun.
Engage in mischief...have great fun.
But life moves on to autumn days
Our pets slow down... this is the case
But they're content. They feel secure
There's no place that they'd rather be
At autumn's end winter does come,
And grieving, we must say goodbye
But even then we know we're blessed
They've lived full lives. To us it's plain
They've given us laughter, tears and joy,
John Whitman © June 2019
April 7, 2021: Hi Hobbes! How are you doing today? I wanted to let you know that Shannon and Josh's pug, Martin, should be romping around in Paradise Meadow near the rainbow bridge. If you could find him and introduce him to all of your friends, I would appreciate it. He got really sick a couple weeks ago and there was nothing more that the vet could do for him. Henry will be so sad without Martin around. Luckily, they still have Penelope to love and cuddle on.
Speaking of love and cuddle, our cuddle Clones have you arrived a week or so ago. Oh my goodness! Eliza was so excited! At first she wasn't really sure, and she kind of looked at it like is this my buddy or is this not my body. Then she pointed to the floor to help me put it down. She laid on the floor and walked around it until she was pretty sure it look like you. She then laid down, stood back up again, picked it up and hugged and kissed it 1000 times! She curate around the house and into the computer room they have a conversation with it! She covers it up and kisses it all the time. We call him Hobbes 2.0.❤️🐾❤️
April 8, 2021: Good morning, buddy! Two months ago today, at this time, you left us to go to Paradise Meadow and the rainbow bridge. Not a moment, not a day goes by when you were not spoken of or thought of. We all miss you very, very much. Especially me, and I am pretty sure that he lies does a whole bunch too. Remember, I mean I always always post something on an anniversary date or on a special day, but not a moment or day goes by when we don't talk about you or think about you or miss you. Keep an eye on us all and visit when you can. Love you forever! xoxo Mom 🐾❤️🐾❤️
April 17, 2021: Hi buddy! Sitting here, thinking of you. Bean and I looked at pics of you today. It's so sweet when she says your name and looks at your pictures. She misses you as much as I do. Come visit when you can. Love you forever. xoxo Mom 🐈❤️
April 19, 2021: Hi Bubs: Stopping by to copy one of the poems to send to a friend. Hey! Help us catch Snickers so he can return home after being lost for a year! He's a ginger boy like you. Not as handsome, though. :-) No Ring of Fire, though. Love you forever, Mom xoxo
April 30, 2021: Hi Buddy! I was just thinking about how you would capture critters, never killing them. Bringing them to me, or playing with them until they were so scared, they died. Poor things! The day you brought the chipmunk to the patio door. I begged you to drop it. It wiggled and wiggled! Finally, you dropped it and it ran up the siding. You sat next to the corner of the house all day waiting for it to come down!😂 I miss you so very much. Love you. Mom ❤️🐾🐈
May 8, 2021: Hi Hobbsie-boy! Thanks for the $2 lottery ticket win. Two 8seach worth $1. On the 8th. ❤️🐈🐾 I truly believe your spirit is with me each day. Tomorrow is Mother's Day. I will always be your mom...Hobbes's mom. xoxo
Grief is really just love. You don't grieve someone you didn't love. Multiple truths...you can feel tremendous pain and grief and sadness...yet also experienced joy and happiness...One feeling does not negate the other. ~ Dr. Jen Ashton
May 15, 2021: Hi Bubs!
Are you coming then? Asked St. Francis
But doesn't she understand? asked St. Francis
Eventually she will understand,
May 27, 2021: Hi Bubby! So yesterday when Kait was leaving, a chipmunk ran under the box next to the patio door. I made her move the box so it would run out. It headed to the front corner of the house. We chuckled as we recalled last fall when a chipmunk got in the house and you wanted nothing to do with it. Later in the evening, I was checking my Timehop. A FB post fro 8 years ago popped up. You, my great furry ginger hunter had a gift for me while I was swinging on the patio. Probably a chipmunk, always your gift of choice. You wouldn't drop it. Followed me around until I got Dad to make you drop it. Today, while Eliza played in the flowers, a chipmunk came running across the patio while I was swinging on the patio. Chipmunks. Message received, bubby. 🐾🐈❤️ 🐿
June 5, 2021: Hi Hobbesie-boy! Here's a cute story. Kennedy, Sandy's granddaughter, told dad that when dogs and cats die, and they go to heaven, they go to heaven as puppies and kitties. And their dog Diesel died this past spring. She said that Nemo, Dan and Sandy's dog, is telling Diesel to being nice to you and not to chase you. And that you are now all friends and you are puppies and kitties. You are all in heaven now playing together. What a great story! Love you! xoxo Mom 🐾❤️🐈
July 18, 2021: Hi Buddy! I found the feather. Thank you! Umm, don't send anymore moles. They're ugly and fast! lol We're trapping them since you're kind of busy. Thanks for rescuing Binx from the condo collapse.❤️ I love you. xoxo Mom 🐾❤️🐈
August 8, 2021: Hi Hobbesie-boy! It's been 6 months today that your little sweet soul left this earth. At this time 6 mos ago, I slept on the couch while you rested in your carrier, restless and struggling. I wrapped our OSU blanket around the carrier to keep you warm. It was one of the worse nights of my life. I miss you oh so much, buddy. I'm collecting your feather gifts. Thank you! I say hi with each visit by a hummer or cardinal. Visit as often as you like! Love you, Mom 🐾❤️🐈
August 30, 2021: Hi buddy! Last week, (8-20 thru 8-28) you joined us as we traveled to Kiawah Island. Thank you for all the feathers 🪶 on the beach! I brought one home for my feather jar. On Monday the 23rd, you would have turned 17 years old. I wanted you with me on that day and not home alone. Happy Birthday, Hobbsie-boy. I shared your pic on FB and Instagram. Your shadow has followed me around the house today. Maybe your remains joined us on Kiawah, but I think your spirit stayed home. I miss you. ❤️🪶🐾🐈