B E N T L E Y|
AUGUST 12, 1996 - JUNE 15,2007
"A life well-lived and lived well"
My Dearest Bentley-
"Beginnings are never easy, endings are usually sad; it's the in-between that matters the most; remember that at each new beginning..." -Hope Floats, 2001
-I remember driving to a cocker spaniel breeder in Holden, Massachusetts to see a litter of puppies that were only 4 weeks old. We arrived and the breeder told us that only one puppy remained from the litter, the others had already been pre-sold. We didn't have any idea which puppy was available and which had been sold since the litter was together in a child's playpen. I remember seeing you and thinking that you were the cutest one. I was sure that you were sold; your fur was almost pure white with a beautiful face. The breeder said that you were the last one available. I bought you on-the-spot but we had to wait another 4 weeks to take you home to Boston.
- You are and always will be my little 8 week old baby boy!!!
-Bentley loves sniffing "his" kitchen treat cabinet, he learned quickly in every home where his treats, toys and food were kept.
-If Bentley was upset about anything you could turn his mood around with a treat. He loves Polka Dot Dog Bakery treats.
- I remember when Bentley pulled a loaf of fresh bread from Flour Bakery off the kitchen counter on Cumston Street; the only thing remaining was the loaf bag. Bentley devoured the entire loaf in seconds!!!
- During the past 4 years, Alberto has given Bentley the most love and the best care that anyone could ask for...
-Our motto..."LOVE... KISS... HUG... A SPANIEL; LIVE FOREVER !!!"
-"Is there a question?" I always ask him this when he is having his belly rubbed and he lifts his front paws.
-"I have a question?" " How did you get to be so handsome?" Then he looks at me with those big chestnut colored eyes and I kiss his nose.
-"I see London... I see France... I see Bentley in his underpants."
-Bentley represents grace, class, regal, elegance. He walked so proudly; like a miniature horse trot.
-Bentley always had the best eye sight and sense of smell. He knew that chicken was boiled for him for dinner an hour and a half before it was even done.
-Bentley's songs..."Home" by Chris Daughtery; "Hero" by Enrique Inglesias and "Calling All Angels" from the series finale of Six Feet Under.
-Bentley loved to wipe his face (both sides) on the front of the sofa after every meal. It is/was his personal napkin. It didn't matter whether we were at our homes in Boston, Maine or Florida; he used them all. I used to say..." Bentley, don't do that..." It didn't matter, now I miss it.
-March 11, 2007 -- Bentley gave me THREE "unsolicited" kisses on my nose laying in bed with him in Boston.
-March 13, 2007 - Bentley, Buster and Alberto spent the afternoon at the beach in Ogunquit. Bentley went into the FREEZING water, ran and played with other dogs on the beach. Tonight, he seems to be in pain. I love you.
-Bentley was exactly...10 years, 10 months and 3 days old at his passing on June 15, 2007.
-Beaumont was exactly...11 years, 7 months (to the day) at his passing July 23, 2002.
-Bentley LOVED the vacuum cleaner. Any time that I would turn-on a vacuum cleaner, he would just appear. He loved following it; I would always have to say..."BEEP, BEEP BENTLEY..."
- Bentley loved looking out of the windows in Boston because they're floor-to-ceiling glass so he could watch the world pass him by on the street below. He loved to bark at people, dogs and especially, the horse and carriage rides that came down the street for tourists. He would press that wet, black nose right against the glass and bark. I miss cleaning those nose prints from the window glass...:( Bentley always had the most AMAZING vision even as he aged.
-Bentley LOVED to nose-dive into freshly fallen snow then eat the snow. It always upset his belly, it was too cold for him to eat.
-Bentley LOVED to lay in the sunshine.
-Bentley LOVED to watch television. His favorite shows where cartoons; especially, SpongeBob Square Pants and The Discovery Channel. Bentley loved nature either enjoying it himself or watching it on television.
-Bentley lived his life in Boston's South End neighborhood. He also loved his weekend home in Ogunquit, Maine and winter retreat in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. We were fortunate enough to spend the month of December, 2006 in FTL with him which he loved.
-I remember when Bentley was regularly pee-peeing in front of the dishwasher. I blamed the developer, I thought the dishwasher was leaking. I ended up getting new hardwood floors in the kitchen and a new dishwasher. I never knew it was him until after the repairs were completed and he started doing it in front of the wine cooler. Ooops....
-Bentley has the most gentle, loving soul and spirit. He would never even go after a fly; just watch them in amazement as they flew around the inside or outside of the house.
-Bentley had the best "fill-in" parents with his dogsitters, Brendan and Lisa. I'm so grateful that I found them to care for the "boyz." They always took the best care of him especially as his health declined. They were and still are Guardian Angels.
-Bentley loved to visit the restaurant during his lifetime. He always knew that he would get fresh grilled chicken breast at every visit. His last visit to the restaurant was on Saturday, June 9, 2007; he did receive his requisite chicken breast too.
-Bentley loved his "express elevator" rides from the floor up onto the bed. Press the elevator button for an express ride up onto the bed. This is our morning phrase after he's gone for his morning walk and had his morning treats. He would them reposition himself no less than three times until he found the perfect spot to settle into on the down comforter.
-Bentley always hated to get back into the car to leave our weekend home in Maine. I'd have to chase him through the kitchen, through the Great Room to the garage. He LOVED Maine; sitting in the yard watching nature, the birds, the chipmunks, the squirrels, the ants, the flying insects; everything fascinated him. He also loved to take leisurely strolls around the yard, into the woods and smell everything he encountered (plants, flowers, trees, etc..). He loved being off his leash enjoying his yard. I would be doing yard work and he was "THE SUPERVISOR."
-Bentley was gentle, loving, caring, giving, regal, proud, elegant beautiful spirit. He has the most beautiful bushy eyelashes and eyebrows. People always complimented me on them; many men and women told me they wanted them.
-Bentley was the closest thing to a living angel on this earth.
-Bentley always thought he was a big, yellow Labrador retriever. Whenever he encountered one, he would stare at them in amazement; all the while, thinking he was looking into a mirror.
-Bentley has the face of an innocent ANGEL!!!
-"And should the winds of time blow hard enough to take you from my arms, you can rest assured they will never take you from my heart and soul..." Author Unkown
-"God grant us the serenity to ACCEPT the things we cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things we can and the WISDOM to know the difference."
-December 7, 2006 -- Bentley was diagnosed as having Hepacutaneous Syndrome. A fatal canine disease which attacks their internal organs. There is no cure for the disease. At this time, we were told that it could be a matter of days, weeks or months for Bentley's life on earth.
- December 10, 2006 - Alberto, Bentley, Buster and I sat in front of the fireplace in Maine and looked at dozens of photo's; "Bentley's Lifetime Perspective." We laughed at some of his antics, jumping on Beaumont; so tiny at 8 weeks old. Sunbathing, swimming, playing with Beaumont and Buster, Christmas card photo's... A lifetime of love.
-Bentley's health stabilized from December, 2006 thru June 10, 2007.
-June 10, 2007 - Bentley and Buster went for an early grooming to Dewberry Dogs then we left for our weekend home in Maine.
-June 14, 2007 - Being in complete denial; I went to the supermarket to get the ingredients for his homemade dog food. I purchased 8 lbs. of chicken breast and 5 lbs. of chicken liver, came home and cooked.
- June 14, 2007 at about 10:30 p.m.; the overnight on-call veterinarian did allow me into see Bentley in the Intensive Care Unit. Ironically, Bentley was in the same ward, in the same "room" as Beaumont had been in the last time that I saw him in July, 2002. He awoke and was glad to see me. Alberto came over and we stayed with Bentley until about midnight.
-"You never went alone...part of me went with you... that day; June 15, 2007, God called you home."
-Bentley knew this morning, June 15, 2007, that his life on this earth was coming to an end. He couldn't stand on his own but he was happy to see us. He gave wet nose kisses to us and his little tail wagged from the comfort of his own oversized chocolate brown dog bed with the big blue "dog bone" design on it. He seemed at peace and ready to cross over to Rainbow Bridge to re-unite with his big brother, Beaumont.
-We saw three white butterflies on the ride home from the animal hospital. It's like he was following us home telling us to stop crying that he was healthy and a free-spirit. I never see white butterflies in the middle of urban Boston.
-TWINKLE, TWINKLE LITTLE STAR...
-The era of Beaumont and Bentley from December 23, 1990 thru June 15, 2007 has ended today. What a wonderful seventeen (17) years it's been...
-People who have called or e-mailed with sincere sympathy...Maureen, Remo, John, Christopher, Hazel, Krista, Wendy, Mark, Frank, Rhonda, Sharon and many others.
-I am GRATEFUL that Beaumont and Bentley crossed over to Rainbow Bridge BEFORE me. I was always able to provide for them and gave them wonderful lives. They never wanted for anything...I'm trying to be positive instead of focusing on my losses.
June 22, 2007; Good Morning MY LOVE BUG-
August 12, 2007 - HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Today is your eleventh birthday; I'm so sorry you aren't here with me to enjoy a chicken dinner. I just finished reading a novel titled "the five people you meet in heaven" by Mitch Albom. The general theme of the novel is that we each choose our own heaven; I hope this is true because I know that my heaven will include you !!! I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU !!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOVE BUG !!!
October 22, 2007 - Today is a mild, autumn day with a temperature of 71 degrees. We decided today to release Bentley's ashes and return him to nature. We decided that we would do this at the Footbridge Beach, Ogunquit, Maine. This is the location that Alberto spent his first afternoon with the spaniels on a road trip to Maine in the Autumn of 2003; it was also the location of Bentley's last "beach outing" in March, 2007. That March day was cold but Bentley was a trooper, he had on his orange doggie coat and his green winter booties to protect his paws. He made many friends that day on the beach with other people walking their dogs enjoying the sunny, winter afternoon. We left the house at 12:02 p.m.; Alberto, Buster and me for our short ride to the beach. We walked the boardwalk then onto the beach until we found a spot that we felt was perfect. It is approximately 168 steps east from the end of Footbridge boardwalk and 184 steps north. We dug a small hole in the sand; said a "Hail Mary" prayer; "Our Father" prayer; buried the garden spade; placed three photos in the shallow grave. We each took a handful of ashes and spread them over the family photo's, I read a poem, we cried. We kept a small amount of ashes to spread into the sea since Bentley loved that cold, Atlantic Ocean. We released Bentley's ashes into the ocean and watched 11 years of love wash out to sea. We cried the ride home.
June 15, 2008 - ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY; We love you
August 12, 2008 - HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you. Today is your twelveth (12) Birthday; we love you and miss you will all our hearts. We walked to your grave site on Ogunquit beach and planted red roses in the sand...We could feel your love and spirit in the air; with each rush of the waves crashing to the shore. xoxo Daddy Paul
June 15, 2009 - TWO YEAR ANNIVERSARY. You fell through my heart and into heaven; thank you for showing me LOVE. Forever xoxoxo Daddy Paul
August 12, 2009-HAPPY 13TH BIRTHDAY to YOU!!! We love you and miss you!!! I bought a fresh white rose today and put it next to your urn to celebrate your birthday. The pedals all dropped off at 8:06 p.m.; Was that a sign from you? All our love, Daddy Paul, Alberto, Buster & Bongo
June 15, 2010 - THREE YEAR ANNIVERSARY. As you know, we came to visit you today at Footbridge beach in Ogunquit, Maine...Did you like the bouquet of white roses that we brought for you? One for each year that you've been at Rainbowsbridge...The water was so COLD but you would have loved running in it along the shoreline...we love you and miss you more than any words could possibly describe...our life has changed so much since you've been gone, nothing will ever be the same :(
July 1, 2010-Your brother, Buster, crossed over to join you and Beaumont this afternoon; I'm in shock...he wasn't even ill, Buster collapsed at his noontime walk... was rushed to Angell-Memorial and transitioned at approximately 3:15 p.m. today. I'm sure you've already welcomed him into the wonderful kingdom of Rainbowsbridge...Play, love and be happy...soon we'll all be reunited!!! I can't wait for that day; you are my FAMILY!!! hugs,kisses and much love Daddy Paul
June 15, 2011 - FOUR YEAR ANNIVERSARY. I LOVE you; I know, in my heart, you walk beside me each and every day...THANK YOU for always taking care of me!!! A movie with Meryl Streep opened the weekend after your passing, I've had a quote from it written and taped to my desk for the past four years, I think it's a message from you..."Will you do something for me? Will you try to be happy?" I still struggle to find that happiness. I LOVE YOU!!!
June 15, 2012 - FIVE YEAR ANNIVERSARY; You are an ANGEL sent as a gift from God taken far too soon...I believe, in my heart, our journey will continue...
August 12, 2012 - SIXTEENTH BIRTHDAY..., I'm overwhelmed. It doesn't seem possible that it was sixteen years ago today that you stole my heart...I still remember it like it was yesterday...Arriving at the breeder, her greeting us in the driveway to "view" her remaining puppies...You STOLE my heart BEFORE I even knew that you were the last puppy available...Your fur was white as freshly fallen snow and you MELTED MY HEART!!! You took a piece of my heart that very day and it will NEVER be replaced by anyone but you!!! As I type this message, I'm looking at the evening sky and it makes me think of my poem for you...TWINKLE, TWINKLE LITTLE STAR... HOW I WONDER WHERE YOU ARE...SHINING HIGH IN THE SKY SO BRIGHT...I KNOW YOU ARE BY MY SIDE TONIGHT!!!
June 15, 2013 - SIX YEAR ANNIVERSARY; We love you and miss your gentle spirit and graceful demeanor, it doesn't seem possible that six years have passed, I remember it like it was yesterday :( As you know, alot has happened since the first of this year...Grandma had a heart attack on Easter Sunday and a stroke a week later. She is know paralyzed on her left side and cousin Mango has come to live with us. Mango ALWAYS drove you crazy!!! He's been a good boy and we're all adjusting to our new "normal." Please watch over Grandma from Rainbow Bridge!!! hugs, spaniel kisses and much love...Daddy Paul xoxoxoxoxo
August 12,2013 - HAPPY 17TH BIRTHDAY BABA!!! We love you and miss your spirit and energy in our home. I'm sure you've already greeted Grandma with lots of spaniel kisses over Rainbow Bridge. On my Anniversary post to your page, Grandma was doing well and re-gained over 40% movement back to her left side that was paralyzed after her stroke. We played miniature golf with her two days before she lapsed into a coma from a fatal heart attack. Please watch over her and your brothers, Beaumont and Buster, I know in my heart that we will all be re-united one day. For today, enjoy your birthday with your brothers and Grandma; hopefully they'll prepare your favorite chicken dinner to celebrate your special day. I love you yesterday, today and tomorrow...Daddy Paul xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
June 15, 2014 - It's been 7 years since your passing; so much has happened over the ensuing years and the memories make most events feel like yesterday...I miss your gentle, loving demeanor :) I'm sure that you, Beaumont, Buster, Palani and Sue-Ling are spending lots of time with Grandma in the beautiful heavenly realm of Rainbowbridge. I miss, love and cherish the memories we shared individually and as a family...I try to find strength in my faith and believe that ONE day, I will be reunited with my loving family...Most days I think my best years have passed. I love each of you with all my heart. I love u yesterday, today and tomorrow...xoxo Daddy Paul
August 12, 2014 - Bentley, today is your 18th BIRTHDAY!!! Sending love, hugs and spaniel kisses to you over Rainbowsbridge. I love and MISS all of you so very much...it's been a challenging year since Grandma's passing on 06-24-13 and just this week Great Auntie Vera was laid to rest, passing on 08-02-2014; it makes me sad to realize that the MAJORITY of my family has passed and the memories shared will never be recaptured. I'm left with photo's to remind me of a simpler, happier time :( I love, miss and think of you EACH and EVERY day...until we reunite...hugs, spaniel kisses and all my love...Daddy Paul xoxo
June 15, 2015 - EIGHT YEAR ANNIVERSARY; it's hard to imagine that 8 years have passed since you crossed over to Rainbowsbridge. In the grand scheme of time, it seems like a relatively short span but sooooo much has happened in that time period. We've lost Mom, Aunt Barbara, Aunt Vera and fur family members; it's too much loss. I think of you often and miss watching you appreciating and loving nature, animals and family. I'm hopeful that you have reunited with your Grandma and brothers (Beaumont and Buster) in a wonderful, peaceful, serene place; I look forward to the day we are all reunited together as a family, LOVE doesn't simply END. I love you yesterday, today and tomorrow, please give Grandma spaniel kisses from me...hugs, kisses and much love...Daddy Paul xoxo
August 12, 2015 -Dear BABA (Bentley) today is your 19th birthday over at Rainbowbridge and eight (8) years since you left this dimension. I hope you are healthy, happy, running, playing and eating lots of chicken :) I hope you celebrate this day with your brothers Beaumont and Buster along with Grandma; it's my wish that you are enjoying a beautiful, sunny day and and having a picnic together and running in fields and meadows!!! I miss and love all of you; I BELIEVE, one day, we will be a reunited FAMILY again!!! until that day...Hugs, Spaniel kisses and Much love, Daddy Paul xoxo
June 15, 2016 - NINE YEAR ANNIVERSARY; it doesn't seem possible that you left us 9 years ago today. I still remember that day like it was yesterday and I'm sure I always will. We (me, Bailey and Mango) visited your memorial on the Tree of Life at Angell-Memorial Animal Hospital today and sent prayers to you over Rainbow Bridge. "To live on in the hearts we leave behind, is not to die." I think of you, Beaumont, Buster, my Mom and our other family members that have joined you in the after life; I believe, one day, we'll be reunited for eternity...Love just doesn't END. I love you yesterday, today and tomorrow. Hugs, spaniel kisses and much love...Daddy Paul xoxoxo
AUGUST 12, 2016 - Happy 20th Birthday, BABA!!! I LOVE YOU...I still remember that autumn day in 1996 when you chose me to spend your lifetime with on earth. I love and miss you and your brother's Beaumont and Buster. I'm hopeful that you are all together over Rainbowbridge and one day you will greet me when my time on this earth comes to an end. Hugs, spaniel kisses and much love, Daddy Paul.
June 15, 2017 - TEN YEAR ANNIVERSARY - Time passes, love endures; I love and miss you Bentley Spaniel. hugs, spaniel kisses and much love xoxo Daddy Paul
August 12, 2017 - HAPPY 21st BIRTHDAY - I love and miss you...I know that your spirit was with us today when Bailey and I walked through Boston Common; the place of your daily walks during your lifetime. "I thought of you with love today but that is nothing new...I thought about you yesterday and days before that too...I think of you in silence and often speak your name...God has you in his keeping, I have your picture in a frame." I know that you are part of my "soul circle" and we will reunite again!!! I hope you are enjoying your birthday with grandma and your brother's, Beaumont and Buster. hugs, spaniel kisses and much love, Daddy Paul