From: Joan Hayes
On: 3/26/19
Hi Cynthia,
I am so sad to read your story, and I am so sad that your blaming yourself for this, we do put all our trust in the vet, we have to, I did too now I'm thinking too if only we could turn the clock back, we would do everything differently. We do the best we can with the knowledge we have, if we knew more we would do more.
I'm so sorry for your mother, but I think you may be taking it harder than your mum.
Yes the grief is a bottomless pit for sure, I hope in time you learn to forgive yourself for something you knew nothing about, you wouldn't have decided on surgery had you known there would be complications. If only we could turn the clock back, I too would have done everything differently for my boy. It wasn't you who failed, it was your vet who failed, please don't hold yourself responsible.
Lulu knew you were trying to help her, she wouldn't blame you. I hope one day you can be at peace with yourself. I saw a grief counselor when I lost Jasper, it helped. Hugs
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